Archive for June, 2013

Holding Harper

ImageI had the great privilege and honor a few weeks ago to actually get to hold one of the precious little babies who found a forever home with one of my families.  I’ve worked with families close to me location-wise, but never anyone in the same city until now.  I always love seeing pictures of the babies as they grow, but getting to actually hold this sweet little girl in my arms – I had tears in my eyes! I can’t express what it meant to me to have seen the process of her adoption from home study to placement and to be holding her in my arms – such a special, precious moment, and it meant everything to me.  Luckily, her parents are pretty awesome and have become great friends, so they were happy to share her with me for a little while.  What a blessing to get to watch this little beauty grow and to get to be a physical part of her life.   Love this family! 🙂

God is Good – Always! :)

I woke up this morning to the best reminder in the world.  I had an email from one of my adoptive mamas who is still early in the process – working through the home study, filling out paperwork, getting a profile together – and it was the most beautiful thing.  She wrote to me about a conversation she had about the difficulties of the adoption process.  The waiting, obviously, but the uncertainties, the grief and loss the birth families feel and that adoptive families feel for them, the rejection, the fear, and so much more.  And she said her friend talked about all of those things but then reminded her that even in the hardest times, even when we can’t see it, God is working in all things for our good.  I was reminded of my own adoption journey the first time around.  We had experienced a good deal of loss before coming to the process, and we experienced a failed match rather quickly.  It was so much more painful than expected, and I remember doing a great deal of pleading with God and asking Him why.  Then, we found sweet, lovely Amy, who was our CAC consultant, and got started right away.  We were matched within weeks of signing up with the agency our daughter’s birth mama was working with, and even though I was afraid to plunge in again, we went for it.  Our Lily was born just three weeks later, and everything fit perfectly.  Her birth mom is so dear to us, and she said she knew immediately that we were the family for her little girl. 

During the hard times, it’s so difficult to see God’s hand sometimes.  In looking back, I can see that every step, even the painful ones, led us to our girl.  Sometimes, when things get tough, it’s easy to despair, but I was reminded again this morning by this potential adoptive mama that we’re to praise even, maybe even especially, when times get tough.  So often, God has something planned for us that is beyond anything we could have orchestrated ourselves and we just need to get out of his way. 🙂  And remember to praise Him and that’s He is good.  Always good.  Thanks for your heart, Karen, and for the amazing start to my day!!

Parenting Your Children As You Take the Journey Called “Adoption”

This is amazing advice, Tracie!! Too great not to share!

The Spirit of Adoption

As a consultant, I am often asked by clients, how to best help their children walk through the adoption journey. Let’s face it. Adoption, as some have said, is not for the faint of heart, even for grown ups!

The journey is full of ups and downs. There are disappointments and sometimes true losses.

The process of presenting a family profile to an expectant mother, having her chose a family, and knowing it might NOT be you, does flip flops on the heart.

So what do you do if you’re starting this journey, and you already have children in your family?

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Educate and Prepare:

Start talking about adoption early on, explain the process in simple clear terms.

Start a simple discussion about what it would be like to have another brother or sister in the family.

Say something like this: “Well, we have been praying and we have felt God…

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Congratulations, Ali and Cris!

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It’s always special to see the first official family photo, and this little family just has my heart!  Like so many of my adoptive mamas, Ali has become so dear to me – a true kindred (we bonded over a shared love of vintage dishes, right Ali? 🙂  The very best thing about what I do is getting to see absolute joy written all over the faces of these amazing people.  Aren’t they just radiant?
They were able to form an awesome relationship with this little guy’s birth mom and they could not have had a better experience with the agency.  I’m so thankful for the hard-working, dedicated, faithful people who work at the agencies that CAC has formed relationships with.  They are such blessings to us and to our families!

Lots of love, Cris and Ali!  Give that sweet boy kisses from me! 🙂