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Why Use an Adoption Consultant?

IMG_6366Most often, when people decide to adopt, they assume the only way to do it is to sign with a local agency and sit on a waiting list. I know because that is what I assumed. We contacted a local adoption agency and were told the waiting list for a baby was 3 years. After battling infertility, I couldn’t imagine waiting another three years to be a mom. So, I started doing some research and found Christian Adoption Consultants. Here are a few of the facts that convinced me using a consultant was the way to go:

1. I was confused and overwhelmed! 🙂 There is so much information and so many different agencies out there and every single state has different laws. How do you know which to choose? CAC has strong relationships with reputable, ethical agencies. We work only with licensed, trustworthy agencies with whom we have developed personal relationships. For me, it was a great comfort and relief to be able to put our adoption in the hands of experts who were working as advocates for my husband and me.

2. You will not sit on a waiting list for years. Being submitted to multiple agencies lets you be shown to various situations at a time. I know in our situation, we completed our home study at the end of September and our daughter was born April 2. That is less than six months from start to finish! Our second and third adoptions were even faster!

3. CAC consultants are knowledgeable about state laws and avoid situations that may not be in the best interest of all parties involved.  We also walk families through every bit of each situation that comes our way.  Families are able to read through lots of details about a specific case, talk with their consultant about the case, pray over each one, and make a decision that is best for them. This sort of protection and guidance was a major plus for me. The agencies we worth with prioritize expectant mom counseling and work to be sure an adoption plan is the best choice for her, as well.  It’s so important to us that expectant parents are treated with dignity, respect, and with the love and compassion they deserve.
4. CAC offers a great deal of guidance and advice financially. Adopting is expensive, I know.  When we adopted our first baby, my husband and I were both teachers.  Adoption cost more than I made in a single year, and that was incredibly overwhelming at the time.  Beyond just agency costs, there are legal fees, home study costs, travel expenses, etc. Part of our consulting benefits include providing our couples with knowledge of a variety of resources such as grants, low interest loans, creative financing advice, and more. In addition to the knowledge provided, we will do everything we can to help you make wise financial decisions.

Adopting can be overwhelming; believe me, I know! But, as a consultant, my job is to walk you through every part of the process, to pray alongside you, and to help make the process as simple as possible. For more information and some insight from adoptive mamas in their  own words, visit a previous post called, “Heart Wisdom from Mamas.” You can also visit, “Why Take This Path,” for a beautiful blog written directly from a CAC family regarding why they chose a consultant. You can also contact me directly anytime at karalee@christianadoptionconsultants.com.

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Perfect Timing

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Every single adoption story is amazing and is full of twists and turns that we look back on and marvel over.  Every step we take, even the ones that hurt, leads us to the baby meant for us.  Never have I seen that play out more clearly than with Irene and Nate’s story. In a matter of  hours, they went from heart-break to sheer elation. The selfless love they poured out not only to their daughter’s birth family but to a birth family they got attached to and bonded with who ended up choosing to parent has moved me more than I can express.  It’s a true example of unconditional love and the desire, not just to become parents, but to love the very best way they could. Enjoy their journey to their precious Aubriella:

We signed up with Christian Adoption Consultants and our  home study and profile were completed in April. We applied to a few different agencies starting in May, and then had our first match within 6 months. I remember getting that email asking if we would be available for a phone interview. We were extremely nervous. The agency provided us with the contact information and the date and time of when we should call. On November 8th, we made the phone call and spoke with the birth mom.  The conversation went really well.  A week later we were told that we were officially matched with a baby girl due at the end of February.

In mid-December, we planned a trip  to visit with the birth family. Our first visit was meeting for breakfast, followed by going to the beach, and then going to their ultrasound appointment. It was neat to see the pictures both in 3D and 4D as well as listen to the heartbeat. We were given pictures and DVD to take home with us.

After we celebrated Christmas and New Year’s with our family and friends, we started getting the baby room ready. We continued to remain in contact with the birth mom throughout. In mid-January, I started to get a sense that something didn’t seem right.  I  got a message from the birth mom stating that she decided that she wasn’t going to go through with the adoption plan after all. Our hearts were completely crushed as we had the room almost ready and were prepared to bring a baby girl home next month. I immediately emailed the agency to tell them what happened. The day after, the agency called us with another case where the birth mother decided at the last minute she wanted to make an adoption plan for her daughter who was born just last week. . This birth mother wanted a family who loves the outdoors, travels, and pets. The agency told the birth mother that we were that family and after looking at our profile, she picked us immediately. This happened  just days after we got news that the original birth mother wasn’t going to go through with her adoption plan.  We packed up our bags Friday night, bought a car seat, and started our drive the next day.

On January 30th, we headed to the adoption agency and met our daughter’s birth mother for the first time. It was good to meet them and they were so glad they picked us. Then they brought the baby in and we all saw her for the first time. The birth mother didn’t want to see the baby at the hospital so this was the first time she saw her as well. It was definitely an emotional moment to share with her.

God definitely had a plan. If our original birth mother hadn’t chosen to parent, we would have missed out on this amazing opportunity. Our daughter is perfect in every way. In that same week, we went from extreme heartache to pure joy all in a matter of days. We are so excited to start this new journey as parents now. We are so proud to introduce  Aubriella Kay, born on 1/23/2017 and adopted into our hearts on 1/30/2017.

Crazily enough, we learned while we were in Florida that our original expectant mom had delivered her baby 4.5 weeks early. It was our intent to go see her while we were in FL to return the ultrasound pictures as it wouldn’t feel right to keep them. Her baby was in the NICU, so we met at the hospital to return the pictures and to also meet her baby. We brought some baby gifts as well since they didn’t have a lot of baby things on hand. It was a good way to bring peace and closure to the situation. We are happy for them that they were able to find a way to keep their family together.  We also met with Aubriella’s birth parents again right before we left and took pictures of them holding her. We will forever treasure that moment.

We are enjoying our time with sweet Aubriella and can’t believe how the events unfolded. I would have never guessed this would have been the ending to our story.  It’s amazing to see God’s hand in this and to realize this is actually just the beginning.

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Unexpected Blessings

When we were preparing to adopt for the first time, so many people gave me so much advice.  Things to say or not say, checklists to cross off and LOADS of paperwork to complete…and I was expecting all of that.  I was even ready for a wait (though we didn’t wait long, thanks mostly to us being CAC clients) and for the difficult moments of the process.  What I didn’t expect was the sense of community.  I kept a personal blog back then and I followed SO many other families going through similar struggles.  Some were  adopting domestically, some internationally, some were contemplating fertility treatments, and some had just learned they’d lost a child they’d prayed and waited for for more time than they could have imagined.  We were a little community.  Purely online, but reaching out across states and through cities – being there for each other when people in our “real” lives didn’t really understand and didn’t know what to say.  Thanks to social media , I’m still “friends” with many of these amazing women, and I get to see Gotcha Day photos and birthday pictures of these children.  These precious miracles that our online community prayed for and cried for and virtually embraced as our own  because we felt like we were in it together.

As an adoption consultant now, I feel like I experience this every single day.  I am so blessed to be part of my families’ adoption journeys.  I love getting birth announcements, Christmas cards and photos of finalizations and pictures of milestones – there are no words to express what it means.  When you adopt, you become part of a community.  Part of a family of people who “get it.”  People who understand when you express grief over that moment you watched your child’s first mom leave the hospital.  People whose hearts race nearly as quickly as yours when you announce that you got “the call!”  People who love your children and marvel in the beauty of who they are because they know how much you wanted and prayed for them, what you sacrificed and how they have changed your heart forever.  How much these precious children have taught us all about God’s love for us, His redemption.

I’m so thankful for these unexpected blessings.  For the Christian Adoption Consultants family and for the adoption community, in general, who have embraced my children and celebrated and cried and loved with me.  Thank you to my families who have opened their lives and hearts to me and who will always be so dear to me.  Thank you so my online blog friends who held me up during the rough times and continue to share their lives  and hearts. On this cold and snowy morning, I’m overwhelmed by God’s love for us and by all of the blessings He has poured out on me through the adoption community.  We are truly blessed! 🙂