Posts tagged ‘open adoption’

“He is what I was waiting for.”

Today has been so beautiful.  I finished a home study update for a family whose little boy is waiting to come home from Taiwan.  I woke up to the most amazing text from my son’s birth mom.  She told me how much she loves the new pics I sent of our boy and how she thanks God every day for bringing us into her life.  Not just into our son’s life, but into her life.  My heart wants to overflow just typing that here.  And then I opened my email a few minutes ago to a picture of this sweet boy:

isaakI can’t even handle the cuteness.  That face!  All the newborn preciousness.  This is the brand new son of a family I had the honor of meeting in December of 2014.  They came to me after some pretty tough life experiences and were terrified that they wouldn’t be able to adopt.  They had been told by many other places that it wouldn’t be possible or that the wait would be incredibly long.  But, God had other plans for them.  They signed up with Christian Adoption Consultants Christian Adoption Consultants in December.  They were home study ready and started applying to agencies in the spring and were matched with this sweet boy’s birth mama in June and he was born just weeks later. When I got the call from them saying their little guy was officially theirs, I couldn’t help but go back to our original conversations.  The agony of years spent hoping to be parents.  The fear of never being chosen.  But, more than any of that, the faith that God was bigger than all of their doubts and that all of their obstacles.  I am so in awe of the way He brings families together.

This family was also floored by the love they felt immediately for their sweet boy’s birth family.  Mom writes, “It was all just a mind-blowing experience… full of God’s grace… not awkward really at all… and had a “this feels right” feeling through out our hospital interaction— even though our hearts were really broken for the birth family.   The love that they had for this baby boy was overwhelming.  What a great responsibility we have- we were CHOSEN and entrusted to be “the best”… and we are going to spend a lifetime striving for that!” I so often hear that theme repeated – the awkwardness that’s feared when it comes to birth parent interaction absolutely melts away.  The amazing love they feel for their children and that is forged between the families leaves me in awe.  It’s a beautiful thing.

I have to finish with what this precious boy’s mom wrote to me this morning:

“Every ounce of me that once preferred the “old fashioned way” of starting a family is gone. He is what I was waiting for.  God just knew before I did.”

He always does.  🙂

Congratulations, John and Kelsey!

TheaGod’s timing and the way He shows us how small the world can be always amazes me.  I started working with John and Kelsey in the fall.  We quickly realized that they live in my home town!  We have friends in common, actually, even though we didn’t know each other.  What are the odds???

This family is awesome.  They did some amazing fundraising in order to bring their girl home and trusted God every single step of the way.  They knew He would provide and stepped out in faith even before all the pieces were in place.  They started with CAC in September, were home study approved in early November and matched incredibly quickly – on Jan. 2!  What a way to ring in the New Year!

Some of the most amazing details in their story are best told by Kelsey herself:

It was a wild ride the day Thea was born but God perfectly worked it all out. Just a quick part because I love this so much: we were in Detroit for a layover after she had been born and we were on our way down. We got a call from the agency and some things were getting pieced together so we were a bit worried and talking about it. A lady right behind us popped her head over the seats where we were sitting and said “I’m sorry for eavesdropping but we adopted these two girls 9 years ago from birth and I know exactly what you are going through. Just relax and know God will work everything out.” God totally sent her to us at such the perfect time! We just kind of laughed because God was being so obvious in his comforting.

He speaks to us so loudly when we are still enough to listen! How much do I love the fact that our God is still speaking to His children?  “God was being so obvious in His comforting.”  Makes me want to just sit and praise!  More from Kelsey:

Thea was born on the 8th and had to be immediately flown to another hospital so her birth mom hardly got to see her and still signed the papers only 12 hours after giving birth so we could be with her. We knew God was asking us to open ourselves further than we thought we were comfortable and so we invited her down to stay a few days. Those were some of the most rewarding days and our open adoption has been an incredible journey! Thea is thriving at home in the chaos of her siblings and being absolutely loved on by her new church family.

I love this so much!!  First of all, what a testimony to a birth mother’s love – she signed the papers so quickly and was willing to forgo her time with this precious baby because she knew it was best not only for the baby, but for the adoptive family.  How amazing is that?  Then, spurred by God’s prompting, the family gave up their own comfort and opened their hearts to something they didn’t think they would – an open relationship with their daughter’s birth mom. And they’ve been rewarded – the relationship has enhanced not only the birth mom’s life, but this family’s life, as well.  Adoption is amazing – the way it opens hearts and changes perspectives – I’ll never get over it.

It has been an absolute honor and privilege to get to know this family and to walk their adoption journey alongside them, but more importantly, it’s been amazing to see our Creator walk alongside them!  Welcome to the world, sweet baby girl!  You are so very loved!

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